Remember that time when “conscious uncoupling” become quite the table-top conversation (Gwyneth Paltrow divorce). Well, in case you missed it, a few years ago Gwyneth Paltrow announced on her website Goop that she and Coldplay’s front-man, Chris Martin, had decided to separate. Here is the direct quote from the letter they released together:
“We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and co-parent, we will be able to continue in the same manner.”
At that time it got me thinking... In 1999, I had a painful decision to make; to consciously uncouple from the love of my life, or to journey through the muck, the mire, the desperate heartbreak, and the deepest pain I had ever experienced and hope for healing between us. My soulmate came to me with the devastating news of infidelity. Everyone told me to leave. Everyone supported the assumed decisions that I should make for myself and our daughters.
His betrayal. My approval addiction. Our unworthiness. Ultimately, he broke our commitment to monogamy, to love and cherish, to honor. And I was expected to Consciously Uncouple (and had the reasons to do so) by every support system I had.
I could have “easily” chosen Conscious Uncoupling. But instead I chose us; I chose Conscious Coupling.
So what does it take to Consciously Couple? Here are the 5 most important things that I learned to heal through the pain, and stay conscious in our coupleship:
If you are on the verge of consciously uncoupling, try the tools above and see what happens, or call us for a free strategy session. You can have a passionate conscious coupleships.
Are you ready to choose a conscious coupleship?
Marla and Jami
Cofounders of JamiAndMarla.LOVE (fka Passion Provokers and Keller Coaching) Jami and Marla are proud to bring a new level of success to coupleships worldwide with their unique coaching, mentoring, and consulting process. Their blogs are not only informative for coupleships they are personal. For over 25 years they have been helping people create emotionally and physically intimate coupleships.
Ariel is a freelance blogger, web designer, and SEO consultant. She is 23 years young, married to her soulmate, and a proud “mother” to boxer Bruce and Yorkie Dexter. She focuses on writing content that is raw and relatable. (Info relevant at the time of writing, circa 2013-2015)