Not The WHAT, but The HOW

There are a lot of promises we make to ourselves every time the end of the year rolls around. The ball drops in Time Square, and you wake up reminding yourself that you will remember to write the correct year on all future documents. You have a “bucket list” for that year. Or perhaps you don’t. According to 40%-45% of Americans make resolutions. Yet suddenly, you are aware of how fast time goes, and how there were so many things you planned on doing that you didn’t. Maybe you were one of the few who accomplished their list from the year before. And in that case, I congratulate you.

Here are the success rates (based on time):

Individuals who maintain their resolution 2 weeks from date: 75%

Those who maintain after the first 2 weeks: 71%

Those who can manage to get past the first month: 64%

The hardcore after 6-monthers: 46%

Information courtesy of

Rewind back to those promises you made for yourself only a few short weeks ago. Did you have a plan? Did you think…”This is what I want for 2012?” and then follow it with “This is HOW I am going to do it?”

This is the iPhone Culture. This is the Blackberry age. This is the Droid “doing” era. This is it, and we all have lists. Grocery lists, daily goals lists, shopping lists, reminder lists, lists for future lists to write….you get the idea. We make plans and show up. But HOW do you get there? At Passion Provokers, we’ve realized the HOW is a much bigger deal than the WHAT.


Life isn’t about the the WHAT’s next, but about HOW you are going to do “next”. And who is there with you. Our team firmly believes in the power of relationships and the healing that can be accomplished in just a short amount of time. If there was an inkling of a better relationship in the promises you made to yourself (and perhaps your partner) than the HOW becomes extremely important.

We know how. Become the 45% that choose to know WHAT they want, and then become the 46% of those who choose and accomplish HOW they will do it.


2 thoughts on “Not The WHAT, but The HOW

  1. Love it, I recently read an article about the social gratification people get from sharing goals. Often people never get off the ground because the social payout was good enough. The HOW and then taking action are huge. What is your payout?

  2. I believe our culture has a tendency to do a lot of talking but lack in action because we are continually in a “comfortable” zone. It seems to take something really terrible (and occasionally something really great) to spark a flame big enough to act. If a relationship is really hurting, it gets down to fight or flight. And “flight” is easy.

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