Feeling Wheel 5.0 
(Scroll down for instructions on use.)

Welcome to the Feeling Wheel!

This is a powerful tool that can work some serious magic in your life and the actually breathe new life into your coupleship. Here's how it works:
  • The three feelings in the middle of this wheel, Shame, Forgiveness and Love, represent the inner conflict that we all have to face. Are we lovable and loving, or shame-based? Shame is the only toxic emotion on the Feeling Wheel.
  • The six feelings outside the core three represent modes. Modes are pathways in the brain that we develop very early in life, some while we are still in the womb. We learn half of all that we ever learn by the time we are two years old, and many modes are set by then. And those modes remain until we purposely change them. The Feeling Wheel is a tool to grow those modes into methods of reacting that serve our values and goals.
  • The goal of this wheel is to drain the shame out of the middle by using the tool of forgiveness. By forgiving the people and situations that have resulted in "Northside" emotions, you drain the shame out of the middle of the wheel and this keeps it from sticking to other emotions. When this happens, Shame turns into Rejection first (Rejection is a non-toxic feeling--we all experience rejection off and on), and then it actually becomes Love. This creates a dynamic in your life where none of your feelings are toxic, and you are able to build better boundaries.
  • Forgiveness is not a one time thing nor is it just saying “I forgive you/this.” It requires that you identify what was broken, as well the feelings around the situation. There are more steps to this process, and PassionProvokers.com has more resources under the “Tools” tab for you.
  • The first step is to simply track what you’re feelings two or three times a day. Please list three feelings and who you're with and what you are doing as you track your emotions in your journal, or in a separate notebook or Smartphone note app.
 Let us know if you have any questions about this incredibly tool. There are so many uses, and it is our desire that you have confidence and success in all of your relationships! (Scroll down for our feeling wheels for kids...)
Enjoy!
Jami and Marla

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