I’ve been thinking of a particular phrase lately. It goes something like this…”Hurting people hurt people.” It’s pretty basic. It’s logical. And it’s something all of us hear/read and start thinking “HA! This is perfect for _______ (insert any name of any person who has ever hurt you here).” We smirk; we feel a little bit of accomplishment and validation in picking out exactly who those people may have been. Then we go back to returning e-mails and planning the To-Do list.
We all carry around our own Precious. You know what I mean…Lord Of The Rings, the RING of doom…the “Precious”…the all-powerful Ring that controls the whole Middle Earth. We all have one of those (or two, or three). We coddle it, and we don’t want anyone to take it away from us. We treasure our Hurt and we pull it out anytime we feel threatened. Therefore, we are all hurting people who hurt people.
There is another phrase that rattles around in my brain shortly after that first one. It goes something like this… “The healthier you become the healthier people you attract into your life.” So, there is this light at the end of this tunnel. The Ring of Doom starts to become less important; those walls we all build start to break down a little bit, and forgiveness of all that garbage (the Hurt) becomes probable…and most importantly, possible.
I’d like to start a new phrase. “Healthy people health people.” Now, despite the horrible word structure (this is when all English gurus loose it) and the horrible way I just made “Health” a verb, I think it is genius. Why? Because it WORKS. Let me show you this winning equation….
Hurting People Hurt People – the PRECIOUS + The Healthier you become the Healthier people you attract + Forgiveness = Healthy People Health People
This is the formula for Peace, Love, and Joy. But, it’s more than that. It’s where ALL feelings are fair game. Where it’s okay to feel rage. It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to feel shame.
Why? Because of forgiveness. Because Healthy People Health People. Because I am willing to take a bullet for that formula.
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Cofounders of JamiAndMarla.LOVE (fka Passion Provokers and Keller Coaching) Jami and Marla are proud to bring a new level of success to coupleships worldwide with their unique coaching, mentoring, and consulting process. Their blogs are not only informative for coupleships they are personal. For over 25 years they have been helping people create emotionally and physically intimate coupleships.
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